So now Jane Fonda’s trying to apologize for doing her part in Vietnam.
Bad move. They’ll never accept your apology.
In fact, I can assure you this: some people gain in self-esteem and power by hating others. Other people aren’t set up for forgive certain acts. And quite a few of them would find their world emptied of meaning if they forgave you for what you did.
Here’s what you need to do: Tell them “Fuck you, then!” and move on.
Not publicly, mind you. Just to yourself.
You’ve done your part, and just because many of the people you apologized to would only be satisfied with a horrific death after elongated, painful, torture (whether from them, the Viet Cong, God or some rare, painful disease) doesn’t mean you have to degrade yourself further for their sake.
Oh, and by the way: we could care less about your self-insecurities. Some of us have disabilities (physical and psychological) holding us back, others have to deal daily with other’s problems, and others have made bad decisions that cause us problems to this day. Somebody’s temporary insecurities that cause them to pause from moment to moment of megafame is not going to make any of us weep or say “poor girl.” Get over it.